i’ve been curious for some time about the potentially healing benefits of bdsm (“BDSM is a variety of erotic practices involving dominance and submission, role-playing, restraint, and other interpersonal dynamics.” –wikipedia) i continue to be fascinated by the potential to enact our darkest ingrained dysfunctions in a healthy, loving space… how empowering it can be to recreate a powerless space by choice, choosing to re-enter the trauma space; except this time with full power. as so interestingly shown by guy maddin in my winnipeg, when he hires his childhood home and actors to literally re-enact scenes from his childhood.
People in the BDSM scene reported higher levels of happiness in the past two weeks than people outside it, and they said they felt more secure in their relationships.
ironically, bdsm is still listed in most countries as a mental disorder.
my suspicion is that all of us have some kind of deep, dark fantasies. but it takes work and intention and self-awareness to find them. i consider discovering my fantasies and kinks as mile markers on my journey of self-discovery.
cheers to self-discovery… whatever path that might take.
I think it’s more the case that those into bdsm do not drive themselves nasty insane with sexual repression and the craziness that goes with it.
i absolutely agree– repression is just a panicked game of bop the gopher, constant vigilance over your “bad” parts to ensure they won’t “escape”… we put ourselves in such confines without realizing it. thank you for reading myatheistlife!
My pleasure, you’re welcome.
I have just one perspective which forms the basis of this whole lifestyle, atleast for me ! TRUST and RESPECT ~ The whole fundamental of BDSM lies on this and I believe that the onus of adhering by these two facts is higher here than in a conventional/vanilla relationship. As a result , true practitioners of the lifestyle are more rooted in thoughts ,actions and feelings to their partner